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transplanted to the East Coast US
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when i needed help finding a good therapist in my area, you really came through for me, tumblr. i need your help again. i lost the list of trans*-friendly therapists around the US that someone gave me and i need similar resources again.
someone that i love very much very badly needs someone to talk to, and i don’t want them to have to go through what i did before you helped me find my totally wonderful counselor. before, when i was just floundering around using public resources, i spent nearly every session with the counselors that were assigned to me being berated and harassed about my gender, sexuality and race, having to try desperately to teach these so-called mental health professionals anti-racism 101, or constantly correct them on my pronouns.
specifically, i need a trans*-, nonbinary- and queer-friendly, anti-racist and preferably non-male therapist in the cleveland, ohio area or close to it.
it doesn’t matter if they’re cis, white, straight, etc. so long as they’re not a fucking asshole, but the person i’m posting on behalf of is not very comfortable with male doctors, but is amenable to them only if they come with very high recommendations.
if you can personally recommend anyone, or know of any general resources for finding non-shitty therapists/counselors, please, please pass them along via ask or reblog. and please please signal boost!
I know I had a list like this last year, but for the life of me I can’t remember where I got it. I did find this one though.
Basic Respect For Transsexuals
- Please use language that corresponds to my gender identity, even if my body does not seem to match, and even when talking about my past.
- If you are still adjusting to my transition, it is normal to make mistakes with pronouns. Don’t draw attention to it. Just correct yourself and carry on.
- A transsexual woman is a male-to-female. A transsexual man is a female-to-male. It is never the other way around. Though sometimes it is referred to as male-to-male, or female-to-female because individuals may not have ever identified as the opposite gender and don’t see it as a transition from one to the other, rather an alignment of body and mind.
- Don’t assume my gender identity defines my sexual orientation. Who I am attracted to is totally separate from my gender. If I am a transsexual man who likes men, treat me no differently than any other gay man.
- Don’t expect me to conform to stereotypes of my gender. I wear clothes I like and I have a variety of interests, just like everyone else. There is no need to point out which of my behaviors are “boy actions” and “girl actions”.
- Please don’t use my old name or ask what it was. Instead of saying “back when you were _____” or “when you were a girl” say “before you came out as a man” or “prior to your transition”.
- Don’t use my name in the 3rd person as if I was someone else, i.e. “Are you dressing as Jack now?”
- If you use the word transsexual (or trans), it’s better to use it as an adjective to describe a person, not as a noun, i.e. trans people, trans man, trans woman.
- Don’t assume that I have chosen to be a transsexual person. The only choice I have made is whether or not to accept my situation and fix it to live a healthier life as I see fit.