tumblr, i need your help, please.

ellydwerewolf:

when i needed help finding a good therapist in my area, you really came through for me, tumblr. i need your help again. i lost the list of trans*-friendly therapists around the US that someone gave me and i need similar resources again.

someone that i love very much very badly needs someone to talk to, and i don’t want them to have to go through what i did before you helped me find my totally wonderful counselor. before, when i was just floundering around using public resources, i spent nearly every session with the counselors that were assigned to me being berated and harassed about my gender, sexuality and race, having to try desperately to teach these so-called mental health professionals anti-racism 101, or constantly correct them on my pronouns.

specifically, i need a trans*-, nonbinary- and queer-friendly, anti-racist and preferably non-male therapist in the cleveland, ohio area or close to it.

it doesn’t matter if they’re cis, white, straight, etc. so long as they’re not a fucking asshole, but the person i’m posting on behalf of is not very comfortable with male doctors, but is amenable to them only if they come with very high recommendations.

if you can personally recommend anyone, or know of any general resources for finding non-shitty therapists/counselors, please, please pass them along via ask or reblog. and please please signal boost!

I know I had a list like this last year, but for the life of me I can’t remember where I got it. I did find this one though.


thecurvature:

Please consider donating to CeCe’s support campaign! Funds raised will help offset costs related toCeCe’s incarceration (such as commissary and phone calls), to building her support campaign (such as printing t-shirts to help fundraise further), and to helping CeCe get her life back in order when she is out of jail.

You can click the button below to donate through Paypal:

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If you’d rather not donate using Paypal, you can send donations to:

Support CeCe McDonald c/o Trans Youth Support Network (TYSN)
P.O. Box 7625
Minneapolis, MN 55407
*Please make checks payable to Coldsnap Legal Collective with “Support CeCe” in the memo line

Email mpls4cece@gmail.com if you have any questions regarding donations.

Fundraise

Consider organizing a benefit to raise money. Examples of fundraisers currently being organized are here, but you don’t have to feel limited by what’s already happening. Be creative, and remember that no fundraiser is too small! Please contact us if you’d like us to promote your fundraiser, or if you need information or promotional material from us. If you have printing capabilities, promotional materials are available for download here.

Funds are going to continue to be needed. Please consider giving if you can.


methodistcoloringbook:

vizzz:

(10 women who were killed in hate crimes. the other 20 are located here.)

beautiful


lalilster:

Alexis Rivera

California’s transgender community is mourning the loss of one of its most accomplished and revered leaders this week.

A number of media outlets are reporting that Alexis Rivera, 34, died March 28 of complications related to HIV in San Francisco. Officials for the Transgender Law Center, where Rivera had worked as a policy advocate since 2007, wrote in an email statement:

“Alexis advocated for statewide policy change and trained hundreds of transgender community members to build relationships with their elected officials. During this time, Alexis was also a leader of the Transgender Law Center’s Health Care Access Project and helped secure affordable transgender health care services in several counties across California.

Alexis received many awards and honors in recognition of her leadership, including the Trans-Unity Trailblazer and Spirit Awards, the Latino Caucus on HIV Prevention Leadership Award, and the first QUEST Advocacy Pageant sash in 2002.”

A blogger identifying themselves only as “Alexis’ sister” also wrote, “Alexis was an amazing community activist. She was also a mother. She also became a grandmother a month before she died. She was also a sister, a daughter, a grand-daughter and and an aunt. She was a mentor to so many, and a friend to many, many more.”

Added Masen Davis, Executive Director of Transgender Law Center, in a statement: “She understood that we are stronger together, and she kept organizing until the very end. Alexis’ death is a reminder that the fight for equality — and against AIDS — is far from over.”

In describing her commitment and passion for her community, Rivera is quoted as having stated, “My activism is rooted from love.”

Memorials for Rivera will be held this weekend in both Los Angeles and San Francisco. For more information, click here.

winged:

blackamazon:

sugaredvenom:

fuckyeahgenderstudies:

I hope this marvellous woman gets as many tributes as Adrienne fucking Rich has. Something tells me i’m hoping in vain, however.
Video courtesy of the Huffington Post.

My thoughts are with the family and friends of this strong, beautiful, fierce woman.

This just sucks

:( RIP.

34 is so young. So tragic. 


Basic Respect for Transsexuals

theselfmademen:

 Basic Respect For Transsexuals

  • Please use language that corresponds to my gender identity, even if my body does not seem to match, and even when talking about my past.
  • If you are still adjusting to my transition, it is normal to make mistakes with pronouns. Don’t draw attention to it. Just correct yourself and carry on.
  • A transsexual woman is a male-to-female. A transsexual man is a female-to-male. It is never the other way around. Though sometimes it is referred to as male-to-male, or female-to-female because individuals may not have ever identified as the opposite gender and don’t see it as a transition from one to the other, rather an alignment of body and mind.
  • Don’t assume my gender identity defines my sexual orientation. Who I am attracted to is totally separate from my gender. If I am a transsexual man who likes men, treat me no differently than any other gay man. 
  • Don’t expect me to conform to stereotypes of my gender. I wear clothes I like and I have a variety of interests, just like everyone else. There is no need to point out which of my behaviors are “boy actions” and “girl actions”.
  • Please don’t use my old name or ask what it was. Instead of saying “back when you were _____” or “when you were a girl” say “before you came out as a man” or “prior to your transition”. 
  • Don’t use my name in the 3rd person as if I was someone else, i.e. “Are you dressing as Jack now?”
  • If you use the word transsexual (or trans), it’s better to use it as an adjective to describe a person, not as a noun, i.e. trans people, trans man, trans woman. 
  • Don’t assume that I have chosen to be a transsexual person. The only choice I have made is whether or not to accept my situation and fix it to live a healthier life as I see fit. 

thecurvature:

cruelyouth:

dumbthingswhitepplsay:

siddharthasmama:

bulletinaweave:

Last summer, CeCe McDonald, a young African American transgender woman, was violently attacked in the heart of South Minneapolis. As she and several friends, also African American and queer or allied, were walking to the grocery store, a group of white adults standing outside of a bar started shouting racist and transphobic insults at them, calling the youth “faggots,” “niggers,” and “chicks with dicks”. Tragically, the violence did not stop there- one of the white adults slashed CeCe across the face with a broken bottle, cutting all the way through her cheek, and another of the attackers was fatally stabbed. Amazingly, in the aftermath of this racist and transphobic attack, the only person facing charges is CeCe McDonald- the victim. Michael Freeman, the Hennepin County Attorney, has charged CeCe with two counts of second degree murder. Because of these charges, she has been unable to recover from the attack and prevented from continuing her studies at the Minneapolis Community Technical College. Considering that County Attorney Michael Freeman has dropped charges in similar situations this year and that he has advocated strongly for programs to keep kids in school, arguing “We all know that when kids miss school they don’t learn,” why is Michael Freeman ruthlessly going after this young student? We refuse to allow racism and transphobia, on Minnapolis streets or in Minneapolis courts. We support CeCe. We are waiting for County Attorney Michael Freeman to honor his committment, in his words “to serve all of our citizens with understanding, dignity, and respect” by dropping the charges against CeCe McDonald. (via Petition: FREE CECE: We’re Looking at You, Michael Freeman: Drop the Charges Against CeCe McDonald | Change.org)

Can anyone explain to me how if one person was fatally wounded, she can be charged with two counts of second degree murder? I’m genuinely confused and I generally understand charges dealing with homicides, but this doesn’t make sense to me?

…I too would like to know this.

I have no idea. I read this story from Racialicious, and it says one of the attackers was stabbed (this says so too), and I guess they died. But it doesn’t even say that CeCe did it. Even if she did, it would have clearly been self-defense.
So either way, this is bullshit.

This petition needs a LOT more signatures than it has. This case hasn’t been getting nearly enough media attention, and we can’t just let it get swept under the rug (which is exactly what prosecutors want).

I’m having some trouble with the website - I’ll try again later. 
Everybody else, Please sign the petition and forward this around.

thecurvature:

cruelyouth:

dumbthingswhitepplsay:

siddharthasmama:

bulletinaweave:

Last summer, CeCe McDonald, a young African American transgender woman, was violently attacked in the heart of South Minneapolis. As she and several friends, also African American and queer or allied, were walking to the grocery store, a group of white adults standing outside of a bar started shouting racist and transphobic insults at them, calling the youth “faggots,” “niggers,” and “chicks with dicks”. Tragically, the violence did not stop there- one of the white adults slashed CeCe across the face with a broken bottle, cutting all the way through her cheek, and another of the attackers was fatally stabbed. Amazingly, in the aftermath of this racist and transphobic attack, the only person facing charges is CeCe McDonald- the victim. Michael Freeman, the Hennepin County Attorney, has charged CeCe with two counts of second degree murder. Because of these charges, she has been unable to recover from the attack and prevented from continuing her studies at the Minneapolis Community Technical College. Considering that County Attorney Michael Freeman has dropped charges in similar situations this year and that he has advocated strongly for programs to keep kids in school, arguing “We all know that when kids miss school they don’t learn,” why is Michael Freeman ruthlessly going after this young student? We refuse to allow racism and transphobia, on Minnapolis streets or in Minneapolis courts. We support CeCe. We are waiting for County Attorney Michael Freeman to honor his committment, in his words “to serve all of our citizens with understanding, dignity, and respect” by dropping the charges against CeCe McDonald. (via Petition: FREE CECE: We’re Looking at You, Michael Freeman: Drop the Charges Against CeCe McDonald | Change.org)

Can anyone explain to me how if one person was fatally wounded, she can be charged with two counts of second degree murder? I’m genuinely confused and I generally understand charges dealing with homicides, but this doesn’t make sense to me?

…I too would like to know this.

I have no idea. I read this story from Racialicious, and it says one of the attackers was stabbed (this says so too), and I guess they died. But it doesn’t even say that CeCe did it. Even if she did, it would have clearly been self-defense.

So either way, this is bullshit.

This petition needs a LOT more signatures than it has. This case hasn’t been getting nearly enough media attention, and we can’t just let it get swept under the rug (which is exactly what prosecutors want).

I’m having some trouble with the website - I’ll try again later. 

Everybody else, Please sign the petition and forward this around.



delisubthefemmecub:

bittybandolero:

adailyriot:

combat—wombat:

[TW FOR ANTI-TRANS AND RACIST VIOLENCE AND HATE SPEECH]
SUPPORT CECE MCDONALD! 
CeCe McDonald is a young African American transgender woman charged with “second degree murder” after an incident that began when she was violently attacked because of her gender and race.
DROP the charges and FREE CeCe!
CeCe is a creative and energetic person who, before her life was so unjustly interrupted, was studying fashion at MCTC. She had a stable home where she lived with and helped support four other African American youth, her family. CeCe’s family describes her as a leader, a role model, and a loyal friend. She is known as a wise, out-spoken, and welcoming person, with a cheerful disposition and a history of handling prejudice with amazing grace.
Around 12:30 am on June 5, CeCe and four of her friends (all of them black) were on their way to Cub Foods to get some food. As they walked past Schooner’s Bar in South Minneapolis, a man and two women (all of them white) began to yell epithets at them. They called CeCe and her friends ‘faggots,’ ‘niggers,’ and ‘chicks with dicks,’ amongst other things.
As they were shouting, one of the women smashed her drink into the side of CeCe’s face, slicing her cheek open, lacerating her salivary gland, and stinging her eyes with liquor. A fight ensued, with more people joining in. What happened during the fight is unclear, but within a few minutes Dean Schmitz–one of the attackers–had been stabbed.
CeCe was later arrested, and is now falsely accused of murder
For a month, CeCe was kept in solitary confinement “for her own protection”; she had no say in this matter. Finally, she was transferred to a psychiatric unit in the Public Safety Facility. It was nearly two months before she was taken back to a doctor to check up on the wound on her face, which by then had turned into a painful, golf ball-sized lump.
Later on, CeCe’s friends were harassed on the street by people they recognized from the scene of the fight. Individuals circled the block that CeCe’s friends were walking on and called them ‘niggers’ and ‘faggots’ and told them to ‘go back to Africa.’ When they attempted to wave down a passing squad car for assistance, the officer driving the car said he would not help them.
Help us fight for CeCe, and for an end to racist, transphobic violence in our communities! Visit our What You Can Do page and find out how to get involved.



This happened less than a mile from my house.
Stop. This. Bullshit.

So fucked up.
What You Can Do  What You Can Do  What You Can Do  What You Can Do

delisubthefemmecub:

bittybandolero:

adailyriot:

combat—wombat:

[TW FOR ANTI-TRANS AND RACIST VIOLENCE AND HATE SPEECH]

SUPPORT CECE MCDONALD! 

CeCe McDonald is a young African American transgender woman charged with “second degree murder” after an incident that began when she was violently attacked because of her gender and race.

DROP the charges and FREE CeCe!

CeCe is a creative and energetic person who, before her life was so unjustly interrupted, was studying fashion at MCTC. She had a stable home where she lived with and helped support four other African American youth, her family. CeCe’s family describes her as a leader, a role model, and a loyal friend. She is known as a wise, out-spoken, and welcoming person, with a cheerful disposition and a history of handling prejudice with amazing grace.

Around 12:30 am on June 5, CeCe and four of her friends (all of them black) were on their way to Cub Foods to get some food. As they walked past Schooner’s Bar in South Minneapolis, a man and two women (all of them white) began to yell epithets at them. They called CeCe and her friends ‘faggots,’ ‘niggers,’ and ‘chicks with dicks,’ amongst other things.

As they were shouting, one of the women smashed her drink into the side of CeCe’s face, slicing her cheek open, lacerating her salivary gland, and stinging her eyes with liquor. A fight ensued, with more people joining in. What happened during the fight is unclear, but within a few minutes Dean Schmitz–one of the attackers–had been stabbed.

CeCe was later arrested, and is now falsely accused of murder

For a month, CeCe was kept in solitary confinement “for her own protection”; she had no say in this matter. Finally, she was transferred to a psychiatric unit in the Public Safety Facility. It was nearly two months before she was taken back to a doctor to check up on the wound on her face, which by then had turned into a painful, golf ball-sized lump.

Later on, CeCe’s friends were harassed on the street by people they recognized from the scene of the fight. Individuals circled the block that CeCe’s friends were walking on and called them ‘niggers’ and ‘faggots’ and told them to ‘go back to Africa.’ When they attempted to wave down a passing squad car for assistance, the officer driving the car said he would not help them.

Help us fight for CeCe, and for an end to racist, transphobic violence in our communities! Visit our What You Can Do page and find out how to get involved.

This happened less than a mile from my house.

Stop.
This.
Bullshit.

So fucked up.

What You Can Do  What You Can Do  What You Can Do  What You Can Do


The article being reblogged earlier was largely plagarized - this is the original. 

There is a huge problem with the way that people are taught about gender in this society. Children are indoctrinated early to believe that there are two sexes, corresponding with two genders, which are both immutable and non-voluntary and completely beyond our control. This worldview is called the gender binary, and it has no room in it for us.

Trying to teach a new perspective to the victims of this extremely aggressive brainwashing can be daunting. In fact, the task can seem downright impossible. The temptation, therefore, is to “dumb things down” for the benefit of a cisgender audience. This situation has given rise to a set of oversimplifications collectively known as “Trans 101.” These rather absurd tropes, such as “blank trapped in a blank’s body” cause confusion among even well-meaning cis folks, feed internalized transphobia among us trans people, and  provide endless straw-man fodder for transphobic ‘radical feminists,’ entitled cisgender academics, and other bigots.

Near the beginning of my transition, I myself taught “Trans 101” this way. Because I didn’t know any better. Because I had been taught to think of myself in terms of these same useless tropes, as an “FTM,” as a “female man,” as somebody who was “changing sexes.” Eventually, through a lot of intense discussions and a lot of tough love from people who were more knowledgeable, more radical, and more politically sophisticated than myself, I came to see things very differently.

Read the rest

Reblog / posted 2 years ago with 5 notes

puppytube:

Anyway, in terms of stuff with depictions of trans-or-questioning-trans characters that DOESN’T make me want to set everything in the world on fire, check out Wandering Son.
http://goodcomics.comicbookresources.com/2011/03/08/month-of-lgbt-comics-wandering-son/

this is already on my Amazon wishlist, but the linked article is bumping it up to the top. 

puppytube:

Anyway, in terms of stuff with depictions of trans-or-questioning-trans characters that DOESN’T make me want to set everything in the world on fire, check out Wandering Son.

http://goodcomics.comicbookresources.com/2011/03/08/month-of-lgbt-comics-wandering-son/

this is already on my Amazon wishlist, but the linked article is bumping it up to the top. 


lesbianoutlaw:

rising:

Lauper says in the press release, “In New York City, a very disproportionate number [up to 40 percent] of homeless youth identity as LGBT. Even more disturbing are reports that these young people often face discrimination and at times physical assault in some of the very places they have to go for help. Our primary goal is to provide a physically and emotionally safe and supportive environment that will empower our young residents to be the self-loving, happy and successful individuals they were meant to be.”

:’)

Support: you’re doin’ it right.

For real? That’s fantastic.


Employees with Transgender Health Empowerment and members of the D.C. Trans Coalition said they spoke on Friday with two of the transgender women involved in the incident. According to the employees and the DCTC members, the two women said the incident started when Officer Furr, appearing drunk, approached one of the two women on the street near First and Pierce Streets, N.W. about 5:25 a.m. They said the two victims informed them that Furr became angry when he solicited one of the women for sex and she turned him down. What unfolded next remains unclear, with police officials saying they wanted to wait until Furr appeared in court on Saturday or Monday before providing full details as they known them. “Preliminary investigation reveals a confrontation occurred involving an off-duty officer and five other individuals, some of which are members of the transgender community,” police said in a statement released Friday morning. “The officer discharged a handgun and one person was shot and sustained non-life threatening injuries,” the statement says. “Two other individuals involved in the incident sustained injuries which are also non-life threatening,” according to the statement. “The nature of those injuries is under investigation to determine their cause.”


For historical purposes, because I don’t think this stuff should be shoved under a rug…

Thanks to the Wayback Machine Internet Archive, the above link is an archived page from “Questioning Transgender”, a radical feminist anti-trans website that was eventually taken down and erased. A website entirely about.. well, let me quote from their “about” page

We are a group of women not affiliated with any organization who have come together because of our concerns about the hegemony of transgender politics among lesbian and feminist communities. We believe there is a valid and important political debate to be had about strategies, tactics and philosophies toward creating a world free from patriarchy and oppression. However, we have seen and experienced an incredible silencing of dissent or any deviation from the transgender political vision and strategies. This silencing has been accomplished through the use of tactics such as shaming, name-calling, and threats, among others. We believe that these tactics do not further intelligent discourse and we refuse to be silenced.

We have seen many, many women who are troubled and disturbed by the silencing and subsuming of feminist concerns to transgender politics, but who have been afraid to speak up. In creating this website, we wanted to legitimize and give voice to those concerns so that women can make up their own minds as to which strategies they believe will be most effective in creating a feminist world. 

So yeah, it’s the bullshittiest bullshit to ever bullshit. Oppression Tactic #130: pretend that you are the one being silenced and oppressed whenever someone calls you out on harmful rhetoric that attacks the very existence of human beings who are already under a higher level of violence and discrimination than you’ve ever experienced. Yeah, that’s silencing you so much from expressing the same damn opinion as patriarchial popular culture does every day.

Anyway, if you ever doubted for a minute that feminism has been hostile to the Trans community, this website is crucial evidence to the contrary. Just the first three articles I located are whoppers: 12 Trans Myths and Feminist Responses and Trans-Race? and Men in Ewe’s Clothing: the Stealth Politics of the Transgender Movement. 

As an antidote, visit Questioning Transphobia, which has done a lot of answering back to radical feminist misinformation.

Reblog / posted 2 years ago with 2 notes

aaron-in-transit:

Apparently my supervisor and coworkers were fine with it, but the HR representative, who I never even got to meet, was not.

They first had the person from my staffing agency contact me (instead of speaking to me personally) requesting that I not use the correct bathroom, because I might make people uncomfortable. When I asked him to please find out if there was a unisex bathroom in the building I could use (as I did not want to go to HR/my supervisor myself and make it a big deal) they informed him (and thus he informed me) that there is no unisex bathroom available and that I was no longer a good fit for the company.

When I contested that there was no issue, I would suck it up and use the wrong bathroom, they changed their tune to say that they didn’t interview “Aaron”, they interviewed “(legal name)”, and that I was “obviously” not the person I claimed to be.

What really disgusts me is that at 5:00pm, before I left, my supervisor was telling me how great I was doing, that I seemed like a really great fit and did so well with training, set me up my own desk and computer and told me when I came in tomorrow, I’d be on my own. At 5:40pm it was confirmed that they were not willing to work anything out, my “situation” made me an ill fit for the company, and they had already lined up someone else for my job.

It makes no difference that my skills, experience, and qualifications were the same, regardless of preferred name/pronouns. If I had requested to be called by a preferred traditionally feminine name, like say, a shortened version of my legal name or my middle name, I would still have my job.

For more information, please read the wikipedia article on the federal Employment Non-Discrimination Act, and get involved in helping to fight for its passing.

EDIT to add: There are no laws in the state of florida (or most other states) to protect transgender people from being terminated based on gender identity or expression. It was perfectly legal for them to fire me based solely on my trans* status. I appreciate the mutual anger but no, I cannot sue them. Legally, my hands are tied.

that’s fucking terrible.

Is it possible or practical to reveal the name of the company, so they might feel the wrath of the internet?