re: the internalized misogyny thing I said this morning

when people start widely reblogging you and you get the equal and opposite reactions of that’s nice that I’m not alone and look how many people relate to this that’s so sad

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#yay? #:(

facts-i-just-made-up:

Degenerative Cubism afflicts 12% of Spanish cattle. If the disease were ever to become airborne, it’s estimated that all beef cattle in the country would be little more than a few lines leaving the impression of cattle within one month.
A realism vaccine was developed in 1994 but has occasional surrealist side effects, turning 2% of cattle injected into two arguing mimes and a waffle.

facts-i-just-made-up:

Degenerative Cubism afflicts 12% of Spanish cattle. If the disease were ever to become airborne, it’s estimated that all beef cattle in the country would be little more than a few lines leaving the impression of cattle within one month.

A realism vaccine was developed in 1994 but has occasional surrealist side effects, turning 2% of cattle injected into two arguing mimes and a waffle.


aintgotnoladytronblues replied to your post: aintgotnoladytronblues replied to you…

what i mean is emotions aren’t inherently gendered & so long as we accept the system’s coding they /will/ cause us to internalize misogyny and hate ourselves, we can love our gender & divorce these traits from falsely coded narratives & have to tbh

this is so wise and true

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nudityandnerdery:

dietcokereba:

queenspritzee:

puke-ahontas:

edgebug:

sincerely, a person who has been on prozac for 9 years

this is in response to some shitty stuff i’ve seen on my dash recently. it’s super simplified, so if you’d like to know some more indepth stuff on how exactly it works, google it—OR BETTER YET actually talk to a mental health doctor psychiatrist person wow

Prozac has literally stopped me killing myself. I would be dead if it weren’t for antidepressants. If you spread misinformation I’ll come to your house and smack u into orbit.

I’ll join you and steamroll people

As someone who takes the highest dosage of zoloft (setraline) possible for my body in order to function as a “normal” human being, allow me to assure you that if I ever hear you talking shit about needing to take meds, I will pull your head out of your arse and smack it into the nearest wall.

This is good, the one thing I’ll point out is that sometimes antidepressants will make you numb- it’s happened to me and my sister- but that’s a sign you’re on the wrong one. So if it happens, go back to your doctor and say you want to try a new one.


aintgotnoladytronblues replied to your post: thinking out loud

"personality traits being coded male when they’re really universal" is designed to cause "internalized misogyny" on the part of people who have said personality traits (& I’D KNOW) so i’m not sure they’re separable from inside the system tbh

Yeah I don’t think they are either, but I don’t know what to do with that. I mean, if I wanted to work on this to reduce the misogyny part without forcing myself into a box I can’t fit in.

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the eternal battle with internalized misogyny

here’s an example of how insidious this is:

If you were one of those young girls who was simultaneously told that she was smart and talented and loveable for being smart and talented but also told that men were smarter and more valuable than women, you might grow up rejecting anything even vaguely feminine because you didn’t want to be mistaken for weak/stupid/ girly, which you know are bad things.

So you might have a whole lot of tastes that you thought were intrinsic to your personality, like hating the color pink, that are really internalized misogyny. You might grow up and discover some girly stuff that is GREAT like Sailor Moon and realize that you don’t actually hate sparkles and flowers and pink after all, and wonder how different you might have been if you hadn’t been taught from an early age that being a girl was distasteful.

For instance.


thinking out loud

I have this problem which is that 99% of the time I identify more with male characters even in the rare instance that there are lots of females around. And this extends to most things, I always fit the male description and not the female, like if there are articles about relationships I am always the man description, whenever my significant other wants to sit and talk about feelings I am always like wouldn’t you rather pull out my fingernails with pliers instead? Alexithymia is a trait that is not tied to gender and yet in general we describe this as typical male behavior, that men just don’t understand feelings and women are Feelings Experts, so according to that schema I’m totally a guy.

Which is inane. Because the gender binary is a construct anyway, and I don’t actually feel like a dude, what I feel is affinity towards what society calls dude behavior, which is different.

And I know this is some dastardly combination of personality traits being incorrectly assigned as male when they’re really universal, versus internalized misogyny that you can’t grow up in this society and not have.

But I sincerely have trouble telling the difference between those two things.


crystals-pastries:

Okamiden pastillage cake stand. ~6 hours


Track Title: You're So Vain

Artist: Carly Simon

that70ssongs:

Carly Simon - You’re So Vain

There are songs that you’ve heard so many times and for basically as long as you’ve been alive that you don’t actually hear them anymore, they’re like mental wallpaper, they’re just kind of there.

And then one day you really listen and realize how amazing that song is. I did this already with another Carly Simon song and now it’s this one.

And it makes me sad that all people really talk about wrt this song is who “you” is, which means they missed the whole point of the song. It doesn’t matter who the guy is. He’s every guy. Well, sometimes he’s every guy. Sometime’s he’s just every guy who thinks he’s so special and unique and he’s really not, he’s common, he’s predictable, he’s so fucking textbook that you can think of five different guys who this song could be written about, couldn’t you, couldn’t you?

And while it’s a great commentary on a particular kind of guy this song also has some really painful bits:

Oh, you had me several years ago
When I was still quite naive
Well, you said that we made such a pretty pair
And that you would never leave
But you gave away the things you loved
And one of them was me

I had some dreams, they were clouds in my coffee
Clouds in my coffee, and…

which, again, isn’t even about the dude so much as about the singer. And while that verse certainly hurts, it also poses “You”, the generidude, as a lesson she had to learn. And it was a long time ago, and really a small interlude in her life. Not the star attraction. Not even deserving to be named.


anarcastiel:

The phrase “voting with your dollar” needs to die

yeah. check your math people. by this equation more dollars = more votes = everyone you know loses.


Oh my god it’s only 2pm

every hour today has been like 2 days

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samanticshift:

can we please stop condoning prison rape? it doesn’t matter what the victim did—no, not even if they raped someone themselves. stop buying into the idea that some people deserve rape, stop condoning the actions of rapists purely because you hate the victim, stop wishing rape on bad people. just stop.

besides all of the above which is very very important

remember that a lot of people in jails have not been convicted of anything. they just couldn’t afford to pay the bail and they have to wait there for their trial, which could be months or years away, even if they are eventually going to be exonerated of the crime. 

also remember the vast majority of prisoners are there for drug offenses and never hurt anyone except possibly themselves.

if you don’t get that wishing rape on someone is fucked up, at least get that you are wishing rape on a lot of people who haven’t hurt anyone.